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Yesterday was one of those nerve-wracking days where my morning Bible study got cancelled due to snow and negative temperatures, Derek wasn’t able to come home and shovel me out before our evening small group, and I almost got stuck in snowbanks twice driving to small group with Tommy in negative temperatures.  (Derek was coming straight from work.)  By the time we got there, I was frazzled and exhausted.  Just the thought of doing this every day by myself for the next couple of months while Derek’s gone at his trial had me on the brink of tears.  When the others asked about my day, I kindof unloaded, from my need for a babysitter while I do PT to wondering how I”m going to get the snow shovelled when Derek’s gone and my back (like last night) is just too sore to do it (not to mention that you’re not supposed to shovel snow while pregnant, anyway).  God was really good, though.  A couple who lives nearby took our number and told me that Peter would call and come over and shovel for me or fix or lift things while Derek was gone.  Traci invited me over for dinner and to spend the night any time I was worried about staying alone in the house by myself.  Kathy said she and her daughter could come over and homeschool at our house if I ever had an emergency and just couldn’t find someone to watch Tommy while I went to the doctor.  And a college girl who was just visiting our group for the evening said she will probably be able to babysit in the afternoons!  I feel chastened and blessed.  After our small group Christmas party that no one rsvp-ed for or came to last month, I was wondering if we needed to start looking for a new small group.  But the Lord used these people to reassure me last night, and I feel like I finally have a support network here for my “single mom stint” this spring and for when the baby comes.  He does not withhold good things from those who seek Him.

Overalls

overalls.jpgI have a new personal fashion consultant.  He’s 23 months old and has a proclivity for overalls.   As soon as he discovered that we both own a pair, he became very vocal with his preferences.  Every morning he asks to wear his overalls.  If they’re in the hamper, it’s a bad day.  If Mommy is still in her pj’s when he gets dressed, he asks for “Mommy overalls”.  When we both wear them, he’s quite pleased.

The Staircase

Our staircase is the site of most of our discipline “events” these days.  (Last week I realized that I wasn’t making sure Tommy had a change of heart, yet another of the many mistakes I will make during parenting, so I’ve revamped our discipline.  I’ve been encouraged by my mom’s Bible study to go full-circle: physical consequence, then discussing what happened, what Tommy did wrong, what he should have done right, how he can do it right next time, and what kind of response would glorify God.  Doing all this and praying at the end can take up to 15 minutes!  Whew–who knew discipline for a not-yet-two-year-old would be so time-consuming…)  Tommy has acquired this hacking, gutteral sound of defiance when I give him commands he doesn’t like, and he’s been doing it so much out in public that I’ve realized I really need to buckle down and deal with it every time it happens at home.  I’m getting to the point where I dread going upstairs for diaper changes and nap time, because I know an “event” is almost inevitable.  Since I can’t carry him anymore, though, there’s no getting around it.  I’ve tried to start going to the stairs, praying that Tommy will obey this time, then issuing the “Upstairs!” command.  As my fellow moms know, it is almost impossible to be really consistent with discipline day in and day out.  I feel reinvigorated when I get home with my study on Wed. mornings, but by the beginning of the next week, I am definitely lagging.  It’s only the grace of God that will keep me going in the months to come, especially after Baby arrives and I’m sleep-deprived. 

So anyway, this is where I spend a lot of my day, teaching my son to obey.  It’s not as glamorous-sounding as Derek’s job, but it’s the most important work I’ve ever done.  And thank goodness Tommy is sometimes just obedient and cute on the stairs–God is gracious to give us respite in the midst of it all, too!
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Baby/Pregnancy Update

Well, several of my friends are due in the next few weeks, so I’ve been eagerly reading all the pregnancy updates for news of Tommy’s future playmates.  I gues I’m in an pregnancy updating mood myself!  I was going to blog about Peter getting engaged last week, but he didn’t want me to, so I just neglected the blog over the weekend instead. I’ll start this week with a little update on us, specifically the baby.  Today I had my routine OBGYN visit, and everything looked fine.  When I stepped on the scales, I was pleasantly surprised to see that it looked like I had actually lost weight–but then I realized it was saying I’d lost 10 lbs since last month, and I knew that wasn’t right!  I’ve been eating Christmas cookies like nobody’s business, and I’m definitely showing more!  The nurse looked at me, then my charts, then asked for my date of birth to see if it was the right chart.  Nobody loses 10 lbs during their 5th month of pregnancy…  Then we realized that I was standing too far back on the scale.  I moved forward and immediately gained 16 lbs.  I guess that made the nurse feel better, but it was kindof depressing for me.=)  The doctor got out the tape measure for the first time this week, and I was 25 inches, just right for 25 weeks.  The baby’s heartbeat was good, too.  Yay!

The other half of my visit was a little more interesting.  I had some really awful pain about a month ago after lifting Tommy out of the bathtub–lower back spasming so bad that I thought I was having contractions, and a lot of aching since then.  Today I got in with the physical therapist who works solely with the pregnant women in this practice.  She is a mom of three and consequently knows exactly what moms are doing to mess themselves up!  Turns out my loose ligaments (normal pregnancy condition) probably allowed my hip bone to kindof dislocate from my pelvis when I bent over funny to pull Tommy out.  No wonder I’ve been having lower back pain on my left side–my poor muscles are seriously confused.  Being pregnant, normal treatments like ibuprofin and adjustments are out.  Instead, I’m going to be going in twice a week to work on training my muscles to hold everything properly again.  I’m really happy with the physical therapist, and I’m glad to have a solution to all this pain.  But hour-long appointments downtown twice a week when I’ve spent the last four months on a fruitless search for a babysitter just once a week during my class….?  I’m not sure how I’m going to make this work, and I’d really appreciate prayers that other moms step in to help or that a student at Moody or North Park reads my help wanted ads and contacts me pronto about taking care of Tommy.  It’s just hard because there were probably a dozen people I could have asked for help in St. Louis if this had happened there, but I really don’t have many options or friends here yet.  Fortunately, all this will have no effect on the baby, and I’ll put up with pain and hassle as long as the little one continues to develop healthy and strong!

Cleaning Day, Addendum

Note to self:  Next time you’re tempted to deep clean, wait another half hour, especially if you are living with a savage masquerading as a toddler

So I finished the floors while Tommy napped, and we tackled the upstairs bathrooms once he got up.  After a few too many things got dropped into the bathtub during cleaning, I chased Tommy out…  Big mistake…while I contentedly checked tasks off my list upstairs, he was investigating my just-purchased 25 lb bag of bread flour…

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Yep, I came down to discover flour all over my clean kitchen floor.  Tommy was covered in it from head to toe, and of course he decided to run all over the downstairs afterwards, shedding flour everywhere he went.  I was livid (but lucid enough to think, “I cannot spank in anger!”).  And I stripped him and started cleaning it up before thinking that maybe I’ll find this funny in a few days and I’d better take a picture.

By the time Derek came home, the entire downstairs was swept, vacuumed, swiffered, and mopped up again.  And I decided to give up on the rest of my list until tomorrow morning.  I’m listening to a classical Christian homeschooling lecture online instead.

Cleaning Day

***warning:  good housewives may want to skip this post, as certain confessions may shock and disgust them and make them never want to set foot in my kitchen again***

 I’m taking a break from housecleaning to blog.  Sigh.  The good thing about having in-laws who live in an immaculate house is that when they’re coming over, you realize that you haven’t mopped your kitchen floor in almost a month.  (I know!  I know!  But the hardwood hides everything…)  I sweep every day, but the broom-dry swiffer-swiffer mop combination gets the hardwood so much cleaner, and now I have swiffers again, so I set out at 9 am to start doing all of the floors in the house.  Two hours and three discipline sessions later, the upstairs was done and the downstairs was swept and partially swiffered (and the stainless steel kitchen appliance faces were cleaned with their special cleaner for only the second time since we moved in).  Tommy really got into it, bringing the kitchen trash can to whatever room I was sweeping so that I could empty my “dirtys” into the trash can.

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I would be done by now, except we have about 30 square miles of hardwood flooring in our house, so cleaning our appliances sounded like a nice change of pace.  Now off to feed Tommy some leftovers, make some brown sugar-free bread for Dad M., tackle the bathrooms, and mop that kitchen floor…

Christmas and New Years

Well, I was meaning to do this as soon as we got back, but…here’s a brief recap of our break!

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We left Christmas Eve morning for Missouri…5 stops and 7 hours later, we got there in time to light the advent candle as a family at the Christmas Eve service.  Derek and Tommy got lots of compliments on their matching outfits. =)  Here’s the whole family afterwards, minus Cammy, who was with her parents.  (I guarantee she’ll be in the family photo next year, but that’s another story…) 

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Grandpa had a surprise for Tommy on Christmas morning–a working train circling the tree!  Tommy loved it so much that he kindof wasn’t into the presents that much.  He’s still saying “Ba-Pa choo-choo” whenever he sees a picture of a train, which leads me to think that he can’t wait to go back to Grandpa’s and play with the train set again!

After a busy few days, we headed back to Chicago to discover that our foot of snow was gone.  We just had time to unpack before Seth and Leann came up to spend New Year’s with us! 

americangirlplace.jpg Seth was a real sport, escorting Leann and I around downtown (and doing most of the Tommy duty) while Derek was at work. We spent almost a whole day at Watertower Place, culminating with a pleasant half hour in the American Girl store. Seth and Tommy were bored, but they patiently followed Leann and I around as we exclaimed over all the additions since our pre-teen days. The only real bummer about their visit was that we didn’t get to see a show (one of the main goals of their trip). I couldn’t find a babysitter, Derek had to work late, and I was stupid and thought we could buy tickets the day of for any performance except Wicked. Oh well. We consoled ourselves with Settlers of Catan and totally missed the New Year playing Clue. (We’d stayed up on purpose, but we totally forgot about watching for midnight until we heard fireworks going off and realized it was 12:05.) It was certainly a ladies’ night–Leann won once and I won twice!

So it was a busy but sweet holiday season for us, complete with lots of quality time with family and friends.  Mom and Dad Muller and Nona Tata are coming over on Friday to do the Muller side Christmas, so we’re leaving our tree and Christmas decorations up ’til then!

Our 2009 Grocery Experiment

From what I can tell, there are several ways to be a frugal grocery shopper:

  • You can shop almost solely at Aldi and SuperWalmart because their base prices are so much lower than anyone else’s.  (The Aldi Queen blog demonstrates how much you can do just at that store!)
  • You can clip coupons and pair them with store coupons and sales to get really good deals on name-brand groceries.  (My crowning achievement was our first year of marriage, back when Kroger did double dollar coupon days…I once bought $43 worth of groceries for $1.87.)
  • You can watch sales at all the major grocery stores and just buy the loss-leader items at each one.  (When we lived in Mishawaka, we were less than 5 minutes from 6 major grocery stores, so I would literally go buy meat at Meijer, cheese at Kroger, paper products at SuperWalmart, cans at Aldi, etc., all in one shopping trip.  This was much easier pre-Tommy.)
  • You can menu plan for several meatless meals a week, taking care not to substitute them with meals that call for too many expensive gourmet ingredients.  (Four cheese mac and cheese is more expensive than beef tacos, for example…)

Well, I’ve done a combination of those methods in our four and a half years of marriage, and it seems like things have been a lot harder since moving to Chicago.  Both nearby Aldis are actually kindof yucky and always have long lines, the far-off SuperWalmart doesn’t have much food, and the mainline grocery stores don’t double coupons or run good sales (except on milk–one or the other always has it for $1.99).  Add to that how hard it is to take Tommy out grocery shopping (today I don’t even want to count the number of times I had to discipline him for screaming fits while running errands), how yucky I felt all fall, how tired we’ll be when Baby arrives this spring, and we decided that we need to come up with a new plan.

We’re going to try something radical this year!  We’ve joined a CSA (farm share) program where we pay a farmer up front and then get fresh (organic) fruits and vegetables delivered to a nearby drop-off every week for 9 months.  It’s a galling $1000 or so up front, but it comes out to $25 a week, which is what I’ve been spending on produce here in Chicago, anyway, and the quality will be much better.  I have been fascinated by this concept, and after three summers of unsuccessful gardening attempts, I’m ready to try it.  We’ll probably get a lot of strange veggies we’ve never eaten before, but I’m depending on Mariel’s recipes from her farm share last year to pull me through the summer.  (Mariel, this will require you to update your blog more than twice a year!)  We also took a trip up to Costco this weekend to check out the prices (I was going up and down each aisle, pad and paper in hand).  I liked the idea of buying in bulk (not because the prices were that much cheaper than Aldi, because most weren’t, but because we go through food like nobody’s business around here), Anna had been positive about their Sams Club experience, and the prices on meat and cheese were WAY lower than what I’ve been paying anywhere else…$2.79/lb for pork tenderloin, $5/2 lbs of cheese!  Will the $50 membership pay for itself?  We’re going to take this year and find out.  So after having calculated out the bargains and made up a menu for the coming week or so, Tommy and I headed up to the ‘burbs, got our membership, and filled our cart.

Here’s what we bought:

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Having never bought in bulk in my married life, the $160 bill was a little staggering!  But this was an unusual trip–I rarely buy junk food, but my in-laws are snackers, so I had to stock up for their visit this weekend.  I would never buy $50 of meat at once, but we’re having a lot of upcoming company meals, so I’m going to fill my freezer for those.  Swiffers are NOT frugal, but Tommy loves to help me clean if he has a swiffer, I had coupons for them, and I justify it by how frugal I am cleaning everything else in my house with baking soda and vinegar.  I don’t want to go grocery shopping again for a week if I can help it, so the 10 lb. bag of carrots is my attempt to have plenty of healthy snack options until I shop again.  And I now have 200 kitchen trash bags, so I won’t have to buy trash bags again for another year or two!

So…we’ve spent over a quarter of our food budget for the year on the 6th day of the year…I’m terrified!  Stay tuned throughout the year for update on the Muller Family 2009 Grocery Experiment!

My Little Man

Tommy wore his new outfit from Uncle Piko (vest and hat) and Grandma Willett (pants) to church yesterday.  Doesn’t he just look like a little man?

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Em and I have often discussed Tommy’s reading habits.  He loves reading–we hope it’s part-hereditary, part-learned.  (No, I’m not saying that he’s gifted.  Do not misinterpret this post.)  So what’s a day in Tommy’s library like?  What books would he ask us to read him in a typical day?  I decided to catalog Saturday as an experiment to see what he’d read in a given day.  These books were all picked by him when he felt like reading, and we didn’t turn any way.  (Believe me, on any given day, we’re happy to foist a book on him or reject a book on its third reading.)

One important lesson of this experiment (of note, that is).  Because we’ve been snobbish with our book selection (in a good way), Tommy essentially has only a Hobson’s choice (in a good way): whatever book he picks is guaranteed to be a good book!  And, it’s important for our sanity to read only good books aloud!

We hope to repeat this experiment every several months.  Then Tommy will have a little record in the future!

Castaways on Heron Island

Doctor Dan, the Bandage Man

Seasons in Fern Hollow (x2)

Peter’s Chair (x4)

The Firefighters’ BusyDay

Caps for Sale

Corduroy

The Fire Engine Book

Each Peach Pear Plum

Goggles!

Blueberries for Sal

Gallop!

The Happy Man and His Dump Truck

10 Apples Up on Top

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