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Lest my last post make anyone think that I really have it all together, I’ll be really open about the fact that I had to beg my mom to come up again for a week and help me bring order to chaos.  So she trained up on Sunday to hang out with us for the week!  So far, she’s scoured the sink, cleaned the bathrooms, vacuumed the whole house, fixed our dryer, and helped me pick out living room curtains and finish unpacking.  Whew!  Talk about a working vacation!  I’ve showered and had a quiet time every morning, run several errands without Tommy, and gotten ahead on class prep.  Our house is finally looking liveable.  I’m so grateful for a mom who is willing to drop everything at home to help her adult kids when we need it (nursing John through eye surgery, helping us move, and, well, Peter’s currently at home, so he benefits from her homemaking everyday!).  I certainly have a Proverbs 31 model constantly before me.

Tommy loves having Grandma here, too!  Don’t they look like they’re having fun?

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I know this is a controversial topic, but I was pleased to see that our new church (Holy Trinity) has thought through the issue of the Sabbath in their Book of Church Order.  Members are encouraged to prepare their hearts for the Lord’s day, rest from labors, and engage in devotional activities and acts of mercy. 

I was first encouraged to think about what the 4th commandment meant during my freshman year of college, when my dear friend/mentor, Sarah Coker (who we saw this weekend!) presented it to me as a blessing, not a restraint.  I can attest that it’s possible to spend three typical years of college without doing work/homework on Sundays.  It’s all a matter of priorities.  Sarah encouraged me to think about my day of rest as just that–a day when I didn’t have to feel bad about taking a two-hour nap or talking to a friend for an entire afternoon or fellowshipping with my accountability group.  Instead of concentrating on a list of things that I couldn’t do, I loved that I didn’t have to do homework/work on Sundays.  I can definitely say that for me, the experience was a blessing, not an act of legalism.  I attribute my grades and sanity to it. =)

 Fast-forward to this summer, when I felt so tired and stressed out from being “on duty” 24-7.  Yep, 7.  I don’t exactly know how moms can just stop working once a week.  We don’t get a break, right? Fortunately, this is something that my mom and her friends have wondered about, and they passed along the book Sabbath Keeping for my perusal.  The subtitle is telling: “Finding Freedom in the Rhythms of Rest.”  While I don’t agree with all of the author’s theology, I found her gentle encouragements and insights (based on years spent in Israel and Iran, where everyone stops everything once a week) to be helpful.  One anecdote struck a cord with me–a young stay-at-home-mom like me says, “You mean I don’t have to work like crazy on Sundays?”  That’s right, stuff like getting ahead on laundry or washing the sink full of dishes or even picking up the scattered toys really can wait until Monday if they are things that are keeping us from rest, renewal, hospitality, and worship. 

I have to admit…it’s much harder to let go of my “list of things to do” now than it was in college.  But I’m going to try to incorporate some of these Sabbath-keeping ideas into my life this fall: Making up a crockpot meal or doing all the food prep ahead so that cooking on Sunday is at a minimum.  Setting the table Saturday night.  Doing a sweep-through of the house Saturday night to make sure toys are put away and church clothes (and diaper bag, for young moms) are ready to go.  Going out to eat after church with friends or family.  Taking a nap.  Taking a day off from media (wow, I can attest that it’s hard at first, but very freeing, NOT to check my email for a whole day!).

As we young wives aspire to the (somewhat overwhelming!) model set before us in Proverbs 31, let’s not get too busy to rest as any good Hebrew woman would have.  I know several of you have great Sunday traditions (Rachelle and Leslie, I love how your family always eats together after the service!  Anna, I’m amazed at how you open your home to your small group every Sunday evening!)…anyone else care to share ideas that have blessed you and your family?  I can always use inspiration in this area!

Homecoming '08

gatheringI think my cold got to me more than I realized this weekend, because I got home and discovered that I had exactly one picture from homecoming: Sarah and Tommy and I hanging out at the Gathering!  (Wow, you can tell that I was sleep-deprived.  Oh well.)  Let me run down all we did, just to make you Hillsdalians who didn’t come wish that you had:

We arrived at Piko’s super-late Friday.  Tommy decided to wake all the way up for an hour.  Then he slept for two hours.  Then he was awake for three hours.  So were the grown-ups.  By 4:30 am, I had bundled him up and taken him out to the car to drive him around to sleep, only to discover that the gas light was on.  And where in Hillsdale can one buy gas at 4:30 am?  At 8 am, we finally rolled out of bed, anticipating an exhausting day…

Tommy and I hung out with Sarah at the Gathering, Waterman, and the Arb all morning while Derek played Techmo in Galloway.  Some things never change.  Sarah showed me pictures of her one-room schoolhouse and the ranch.  I want to go to Montana.  We saw the new student center and convinced ourselves that really, these new Hillsdale students are going to be soft!  I bought Tommy an HC sweatshirt.  Saw Jim Rowen selling legacy raffle tickets (forgot to thank him again for fixing my computer our sophomore year) and caught up on his grandkids.  Saw several other alums and did the quick “You have kids?  So do I!” routine.  Went to Oakley! with KK and sat there for forever while they filled 40 phone orders before making our three sandwiches.  The new owner still doesn’t know how to spell “Kaitlyn” even though she’s been there a hundred times.  But the sandwiches are still amazing.  Tommy loved his half of mine!  Back to Piko’s for a nap for Tommy while Derek went to the game (I think they actually won) and didn’t play in pep band (I forgot to pack his trombone).  Tommy slept and Piko and I had chai.  Mariel showed up with Derek, Joe Hunt, and Marty (it’s always Mariel and the boys…) and we girls went to the Hunt Club and saw several of the girls, including Eleanor (who loves ND and has already connected with some of my favorite ND people!  Yay!  And lives 2 blocks from where we lived!).  Since this was a girls-only affair (sortof a pre-bachelorette party for Mariel), I had to take off before my guys got too bored.  Went to the Birzers and saw their new (well, year-and-a-half-old-to-them) house.  Gretchen found all sorts of great toys for Tommy, which Harry immediately wanted because he’s used to being the little guy!  Pretty sure I’m forgetting some things before heading back to Piko’s for Cottage Inn pizza with Mariel and Elsa.  Finally got ahold of Dr. Stewart at 7:30 (we were going to leave at 7) and went over there for an hour.  Justinian is huge.  He’s actually taller than Mariel.  And I used to babysit him and tease him about being my boyfriend.  Mrs. Stewart found some great toys for Tommy (revelling in being up past his bedtime), and we reminisced about the Golden Age of the Honours Program.  Determined that Tommy flirted more with Mariel that day than her Derek has since they got engaged.  Realized it was 9 and that we’d only had 4 1/2 hours of sleep the night before and that we had a four hour drive home and had to be at church early for membership class.  Don’t really remember the drive home.  Still recovering from the weekend.

Sniff, Sniff

Tommy and I have been fighting off colds all day, and I’ve officially lost.  Pray that Tommy’s immune system is stronger than mine!

Our recent discovery of the neighborhood library (just 8 blocks away, with loaning privileges from all the branches of the Chicago Public Library) resulted in several treasures.  Tommy and I have gone to toddler story time (Tuesday mornings) and preschool storytime (Wednesday mornings, with a better children’s librarian), and, of course, we’ve checked out the children’s section.  Budlong Woods has an impressive collection of Board Books, and Tommy’s new favorite is Whistle for Willie.  We think this one is a keeper–one that Tommy loves AND that Mommy and Daddy enjoy every time, too.  Great kid’s books like Willie are not just for kids; here’s what C.S. Lewis has to say about it:

I am almost in­clined to set it up as a canon that a children’s story which is enjoyed only by children is a bad children’s story. The good ones last. (from “On Three Ways of Writing for Children”)

whistleforwillieWe agree with Lewis–the best books for Tommy to read are the books that we don’t mind reading again and again.  They’re the books that we remember loving from our childhood and that don’t disappoint us when we find them in a used bookstore as adults.  I had not encountered Ezra Jack Keats beyond his delightful The Snowy Day.  What fun to discover his others!  We’re getting Tommy Peter’s Chair whenever he gets a baby sister.  Peter’s reactions to his new baby sister are priceless, and we know that Tommy will relate. 

Who couldn’t relate to Peter?  Derek loves how Keats brings us into Peter’s world.  When Peter thinks, Wouldn’t it be funny if I could whistle?, it reminds us how kids’ minds work.  We also love how Peter has a pretty fun time of it without any cheap plastic toys–he jumps on his shadow, smacks snow-covered trees, colors with chalk, and puts on his father’s hat to feel more grown-up.  Peter’s mom plays right along–when Peter comes in from a hard day’s playing in the snow, she listens and listens while she takes off his wet socks.  When Peter (in the hat) pretends to be his father, she answers him seriously.  I want to be that kind of cool mom!  Basically, I would encourage all of my readers–parents or not–to go check out some Ezra Jack Keats from your local library.  His collected works will be on Tommy’s Christmas list this year!

Fun With Baking Soda

bakingsodaSo I ended last week trying to think of the positives, and this week started off on the opposite note.  Tommy woke up early Monday, ready to get up and make mischief.  First casualty?  The baking soda box I keep on his changing table to sprinkle in his diaper pail (for odors).  Apparently baking soda tastes really good to toddlers, judging from the finger marks that were made in the 20 seconds I took to run and get my camera.  Yum!

Two Great Developments

We’ve had quite the week, but I want to end it by acknowledging a couple of great blessings amidst the naughtiness and unpacking and stress…  First of all, now that the next stage of teething seems to be over, Tommy is adjusting really well to his one nap schedule.  He’s stayed in bed happily until 8 am all week, and today he actually slept in until 8:45!  (Of course this happened on the one day when Daddy was up and planning to entertain him at 7…)  I’m starting to think that maybe I can still have my quiet time and shower in the morning, after all.  I’m also wondering about how much the teething affected my boy’s napping.  This (new-tooth-free) summer he was napping 5 hours a day.  Cutting back in the past month to an hour or 90 minutes was brutal.  But this afternoon he napped for two and a half hours.  That’s the little sleeper I know and love!  He is in SO much better of a mood when he’s slept well.  Thank you, Lord, for the schedule adjustments.

playpen Tommy has also decided that he likes playing in his pack-n-play.  We haven’t tried to use it as a playpen since he was about 5 months old, but I’ve discovered that if I throw almost all his toys in there, he’ll actually stand outside it and try to climb in.  (Or cry, “Up!  Up!” until I put him in.)  My readers may notice a direct correlation between Tommy’s affinity for the pack-n-play and the increased number of my blog posts and answered emails…it’s true!  I hate using the computer when he’s up and around–it invariably ends in having to put an entire roll of toilet paper back on the roll or gathering up scattered diapers or something worse.  With Tommy happily contained, I’ve been able to steal ten minutes here and there for my class prep, blogging, or getting my inbox back under control after a month of neglect.  I even have half of next week’s lecture (Dueling, Gambling, and other Regency Vices)* done already!  Yay!

*[For those who are wondering what duels and gambling have to do with Jane Austen, we’re reading Cecilia this week, arguably the model for P&P, but with a lot more dueling, Jewish money lending, gambling, suicide, heroines running mad or bursting blood vessels, and general melodrama.  941 pages.  Have I mentioned that my students are delightfully hard-working and responsible?  Maybe that’s three things to be thankful for this week!]

Tooth #8

Wow, so much is happening this week that I can’t even keep up with it all!  Tommy’s other first molar popped through tonight.  So that’s why he was screaming so much last night…

Tragedy at Target

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So remember those ugly boxes in the tour of our living room?  I was so ashamed to put those up yesterday that I decided to go to Target and buy some shelves.  I had a mirror to return, and I figured Tommy was in a pretty good mood, so we could handle it.  It’s been one of those weeks, when I cry about disciplining my incredibly naughty son way more than he does when he gets disciplined, and I treated myself to a pumpkin spice latte as we cruised the aisles of Target, looking for classy, cheap bookshelves.  All was well until we drifted into the food aisles to look for garbanzo beans for dinner.  I made the mistake of setting my cup (well wedged, I thought) in the cart, and as I turned to grab the can of beans, Tommy’s shrieks and a pumpkin smell alerted me to the fact that he’d spilled my precious treat all over the cart and himself.  Fortunately, a friendly Target employee was a couple aisles down and came to the rescue with paper towel and kind words.  I did not feel sorry for Tommy as I mopped up his pumpkin-stained sandals.  Do you know how long I’ve been wanting my first decaf-tall-nonfat-with-whip-pumpkin-spice-latte of the fall?  Well, anyway, I think everyone could tell I was flustered after that, because two nice employees offered to help me get the bookshelves out to the car.  We’re home safely, I’m still mourning my PSL, and Tommy probably needs a bath after lunch.

So I’d finally taken pictures of Tommy’s almost-finished room (and posted them here) when our mail arrived with supplies for finishing it off!   While visiting the Ciscos last month, Christina gave me the amazing idea of framing artwork for Tommy’s room.  The more we thought about our favorite books, the more we realized that they fit in with the primary colors theme for the nursery!  Derek got online and ordered cheap copies on half.com, and three of them came in today.  We put everything together tonight while watching The Office, and I’m going to hang them in the morning!

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Ikea frames…$2 apiece

leftover cardstock from Tommy’s Treehouse game (now completed!) for matting…basically free

used books…$.75 apiece

Having a custom-decorated nursery?………priceless

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“It was a stick–a stick that was just right for smacking a snow-covered tree.”  (The Snowy Day)

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…the genius of Dr. Seuss…

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“Mike Mulligan had a steam shovel, a beautiful red steam shovel.  Her name was Mary Anne.  Mike Mulligan was very proud of Mary Anne.”  (I actually have the whole book memorized, as we read it several times a day…)

Stay tuned for more as our half.com deliveries arrive!

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